You might just need a new plan.
My clients have had a plan since they were 10, including the college they wanted to attend, and the name of their first kid. They make dean’s lists and earn promotions, always striving for that next gold star. They’re deeply sensitive, highly empathic, and loved by many. They’ve been doing their absolute best to keep smiling, despite feeling like they’re crumbling from the inside out; no one would ever know that they wake up each day dreading how they might even make it ’til noon without a nap or a breakdown. Despite their burnout, they somehow continue to check all the boxes: they make the dinners and they keep everyone on track. When it’s time for bed, they find themselves spinning in anxiety, unable to sleep, thinking and rethinking schedules, presentations, and the endless tasks that need to be done.
By the time they come to see me, they feel helpless, run down, and they’re terrified that the “spark” that has been such an essential part of them has gone out for good. They feel stifled at work and unappreciated at home; they yearn to reconnect with how vibrant they used to be. Asking for help is NOT on the to-do list, but staying where they are seems impossible.
If you’re ready to take charge and learn how to deal with burnout, it is within your grasp. You can reclaim yourself as a person AND parent.